I’m flip flopping

A brief note: a year and a half ago, I announced that I was going to change the names of my kids on my blog, in order to protect their privacy. They might not want their poop stories showing up on Google, I imagined.

But I have found this increasingly unsustainable. Whenever I perform, I call them by their real names, because I would just not be able to call them their fake names consistently. And when my book comes out next spring, I’m calling them by their real names, because that’s how I wrote it and it seems silly to change it all now. In that case, changing their names on the blog no longer seems worthwhile.

If I really wanted to protect their privacy, I guess I wouldn’t be writing about them at all.

I’m telling myself that there will be no shred of privacy left by the time they grow up anyhow, and I think I’m right, based on Maureen Orth’s story in Vanity Fair this month about how the Craigslist killer was caught. (Read it for a most sobering look at how little privacy any of us have online.)

From now on, I’ll be calling my kids by their real names, which are like two letters different than their fake names, so it will be easy to keep up. Sorry for the flip flop.

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Mollie October 2, 2009 at 5:24 pm

I think this will be most disappointing to the people who've left comments saying, e.g., "My son is Cooper too!" Oh well.

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Roxane B. Salonen October 2, 2009 at 11:43 pm

Amy, I had two published books before my blog, and my kids had been mentioned publicly before, yet I didn't use their names for a while. Then, it just got weird for me, and I ended up introducing their real names a year ago. It is a strange deal and I've flip-flopped as well, but methinks that once you're public, as you are already, then the whole purpose behind withholding their names seems sort of pointless. Really famous people allow their kids' names to be known, and do their best to protect their privacy. Some do better than others. But I think it's possible to be both public and keep boundaries set around your children not much different than anyone else. Congrats on entering a world in which you will affect many, and all the pros and cons that come with that. 🙂

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