absence makes the mommy grow fonder

I’m on the road again this week: Hartford, Boston, Maine. I’m still enjoying myself (despite the driving 700 miles part). My kids, however, are kind of over it. 

My babysitter texted me this morning that Maggie was “feeling sad,” and I thought, are you trying to rip my heart out? 

So I pulled over at a rest stop and called the house and Maggie got on the phone, happy as could be. “HI MOMMY!” she shouted into the phone, as two-year-olds are wont to do. She went on: “MOMMY I HAVE A SDFLSJ AND I WENT TO THE GDRVIOJV AND XCXFRK LKUBNO!” At least that’s what I think she said. I kept saying “What, honey?” and she kept going off on further tangents of unintelligibility, but she sounded content enough. And Nana’s coming to stay over tonight, at which point it will be, Mommy who?

I want them to miss me a little bit, of course, just not to tears.  Right now I’m pretty happy to be sitting here in this hotel typing, alone. By tomorrow night, I too will be OVER IT and ready to drive five hours without stopping to get home on Friday in time to pick them up from school. Absence has made my heart grow fonder– and so I won’t feel too guilty. I may just be a better mommy for it once it’s done.

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Roxane B. Salonen May 13, 2010 at 3:41 am

It's all about balance, I say. Hard to achieve, but worth the quest. We need alone time, and then we need kid time to rejuvinate us, then more alone time to rejuvinate us from the kid time, and on it goes. Happy homecoming soon. I love the little conversation you described with your sweetie pie. 🙂 I doubt that grandma will ever come close to taking your place.


Linda May 13, 2010 at 12:59 pm

Where/when are you going to be in Maine?


Phoebe May 13, 2010 at 2:18 pm

I go through a mini version of this daily. After a chaotic hour, the kids go off to school and I bask in the dreamy silence. Then by noon, I'm fighting every fiber of my being to just flee the office and storm into their pre-school to "rescue" them from what must be an awful separation from Mommy. The reality is that they love pre-school and would find a whole day home with me quite boring.


Courtney May 13, 2010 at 4:01 pm

I think this is the one thing that binds all Mommies together! We love our time with our children, but then we need a break, or have other obligations. And then when we are away from them, we want to be with them! I know I feel this way daily, now that I am a working Mom again. But it's all good. It's this quest for balance that keeps me going!


Kim - In Search of Me in Mommy May 16, 2010 at 2:49 pm

I hope you had fun times on your travels and a great weekend back at home! Are you going to be in Cleveland, OH area for your book tour?

Since your book is my giveaway and today is the last day…I just had to write about the book again!



Amy Wilson May 17, 2010 at 12:11 am

I'm glad you are all with me instead of reporting me to the Bad Mother authorities!

Kim- send me your email address- I'd love to contribute a signed copy of the book to your giveaway!


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