Mommy… then Mom

Just now, before bed:


MAGGIE: You name Amy.
ME: That’s right.
MAGGIE: But I not call you Amy.
ME: No, you don’t. What do you call me?
MAGGIE: Mommy!
ME: That’s right.


Maggie nods to herself, now that she has set things right again.


MAGGIE: And Connor calls you Mom.


Huh. I had to stop and think about that. But by Jove, she’s right. Seven-year-old Connor calls me “Mom” now, not “Mommy,” and I can’t recall when that switch happened, but it has. It makes me a little bit sad. It’s the passing of an era. It goes to show how our kids grow up while we’re not looking.


The next time someone asks me how many kids I have and how old they are, I’m just going to say it like this: “I have two who call me ‘Mommy’ and one who calls me ‘Mom.’ ” Even if you’re not a parent yourself, I think you can still picture perfectly what that means.


And Maggie’s going to call me “Mommy” till she’s like, 25, if I have anything to do with it.

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Anonymous May 17, 2010 at 1:58 am

My oldest daughter is 20, and still calls me "Mommy". But she is the only one of her friends that still does that, I think, the rest all call their mom's "Mom".

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Courtney May 17, 2010 at 8:10 pm

My 16 month old has been saying Dada since she was, like, born. Of course. She just recently started saying Mama and I love it! I make her say it about 100 times per day: "Zoe, say Mama"!

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Kim - In Search of Me in Mommy May 18, 2010 at 1:09 pm

Occasionally I hear my 5 year old say "Mom" – but it's still mostly "Mommy" – Thankfully! But I know it's around the corner.

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getbornmagmomma May 19, 2010 at 2:05 pm

My 83-year-old neighbor was lamenting to me the other day about how her daughter doesn't call her anything. She ADDRESSES her as "Mother" in a tone that made me shiver. I wondered about how and when that happens–when our children no longer see us as anything other than a danger to their lifestyle due to our fragility or downright stubborn need for independence. I'm glad my neighbor is a tough old bird.

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Running to Help "Evy Beats Cancer!" May 31, 2010 at 12:22 pm

That is funny! There is a definite shift at some point. Recently 1 of mine who will be three has reverted back to calling me mama and her 5 year old brother has followed suit. Frankly I love it especially from the 5 year old who often calls me mom!
Andie

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