when your baby turns three

Maggie is my youngest. Today is her third birthday. I find that hard to comprehend, and more than a little sad. I am thrilled to be done with diapers, done with nasty sippy cup innards and bottle liners and snapping a hundred snaps every time an outfit change is required. I am sorry to really not, under any normal use of the term, have a “baby” in my house any longer.

As luck would have it, I also had my yearly visit to my gynecologist today, and with it the usual questions about family planning. “Are you done having children?” he asked me, gently, and I responded, “Yes. I mean, probably. I mean, I think so. My husband thinks so. I mean, I do too. Most of the time. You know, if I could wait five years and then try for one more, maybe I would, but I can’t, so I think we’re done. Probably.”

I said the same thing last year, and I will probably say the same thing in October of 2011. I could have another. I probably won’t. Three feels right for us. That being said, if I ask you if I can hold your baby, and I swoon over her so completely you fear for my sanity, cut me some slack. I love babies, and it’s a good 25 years before I get a grandchild. Hmm. Now that I think of it that way, I may reassess.

At least three is still very, very little. Three is young enough for lots of cuddle time and holding hands and fitting together in the comfy chair. Three is the age to giggle at how cute they are, and then the next moment, be floored by their insight and maturity.

Three feels just right to me. Happy birthday Maggie.

Giveaway winner! Diane from Boston, you’re the winner of last week’s “What Do YOU Love?” giveaway. Your kids will receive their very own copy of Animal Mastermind Towers from Pressman Toys. That was fun, hope to do another giveaway soon…

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Mommy on the Spot October 19, 2010 at 6:39 pm

I give that same answer to my doctor, too.

Enjoy the birthday! 3 is such an awesome age!

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Courtney October 19, 2010 at 7:30 pm

Aw, that is sweet. I also think that you aren't done having kids! I obviously don't know you, but I say that because my mom once told me her theory: when you know you are done, you know it. And when you aren't sure if you are done, then you aren't done! My mom is very wise:) She had her third and last baby seven years after having me. But after my brother – yep, she knew for SURE that she was done!
Happy Birthday to Maggie! Enjoy it. Zoe is almost two and I can't believe that, so I know how you feel!

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Anonymous October 19, 2010 at 9:23 pm

I don't know if you ever knew for sure. I certainly thought I did when I had my 2nd on my 39th birthday, and the next year, when I turned 40, my husband had a vasectomy. Now my kids are 9 and 12and I am very envious of Kelly Preston having a baby at my age!

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Anonymous October 19, 2010 at 11:01 pm

Don't forget prayer!

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JEZ October 20, 2010 at 2:29 am

I love your optimism that you won't be a grandparent for 25 years! I sure hope not. I scan pregnant women..ahem..pregnant females for a living and eight years ago it was rare to scan a 16 year old. Unfortunately, that is no longer the case. My daughter turned 3 this month as well and we are expecting a son in February. I guarantee I will do my best to prevent either from becoming a teen parent but I'm already frightened by the possibility that I could be a grandparent in 12 years!

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Amy Wilson October 20, 2010 at 2:36 am

Heaven help me, Jez, don't put that in my head. Talk about something to keep you up at night! Connor insists he'll never be a parent at all, so I hope that at least holds him off until he's a bona fide adult.

Mommy on the Spot… do you think these dr's hear that a lot?

Courtney, you may be right, but don't tell my husband I said that.

Anonymous #1: I hear you on the Kelly Preston thing.

Anonymous #2: prayer. What a thought. You're right, I should try that.

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Jaime October 20, 2010 at 3:39 pm

Happy Birthday, Maggie!

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Lynnelle October 21, 2010 at 12:45 am

Happy Birthday, Maggie!!

I've had these thoughts, but now that my youngest is three I think more about adopting or foster care when my kids are older.

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Anonymous October 21, 2010 at 1:09 pm

so she's all potty-trained now?

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Amy Wilson October 22, 2010 at 3:11 pm

Anonymous- yes she is! I have buried the lede. I will have to post about that next week, but YES, the thing is done.

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