my 7 links

My friend Shari, whose beautiful blog  My Judy the Foodie  chronicles a novice cook’s journey through her mother’s recipe box after losing her to breast cancer,  has just given me the honor of “tagging” this blog for My 7 Links. In Shari’s own words,

My 7 Links’ goal is to unite bloggers from all sectors in an endeavor to create a bank of posts that deserve to be re-read.  The simple rule of the challenge is to choose one’s seven best posts according to seven different categories. 

It seems a little weird to nominate one’s own best posts. But hey, actors have to nominate themselves for Emmys, too. As I start my 5th (!) year blogging, and as I continue to clean up the minor fallout of moving this blog and changing its name, this was a productive  assignment.

Here’s my 7 Links:

my most controversial post: I wrote an essay for babytalk magazine called “A Daughter At Last,” about my apprehension at having a daughter after two sons. CNN reran it on their home page, after retitling it “Why I Didn’t Want a Girl.”  Half of its readers really identified with the anxiety of a mother-to-be; half thought I should have my children taken away from me. Seriously, direct quote. I stopped reading the comments very quickly, but I never deleted any, either. It was a Tiger Mom in a teapot, and it led to great things for me, but if you’re interested in what the trolls had to say, check out the hundred-plus comments for this post.

my most popular post: going by the keyword searches over the last 5 years, the most landed-on page for my blog has been mocking stuff is bad karma, which touts the lice-picking magic of the Hair Fairies and derides the baby-terrifying powers of the Nosefrida. I think most of this post’s readers come looking for how-tos on the Nosefrida, but honestly I hate the thing and think it doesn’t work.  (Again, you will find I have some commenters who disagree.)

my most helpful post: this exploration of the traps you can lay out for your children, before they get home from school, in order to ensure calm and happy play. You gotta think like a preschool teacher, rotate the toys, set up vignettes. It’s well worth the couple of minutes you put in. “Traps” have saved my sanity on many a winter afternoon in our apartment. Try it.

my post with surprising success: Do you eat dinner with your kids every night? How about ever?  I wrote this post about how we never eat dinner with a family, expecting to hear “exactly” and “us too” back. Instead, my commenters explained why family dinner was so important to them, and how I could make it happen for us. They completely surprised me, and changed my mind, and I was so grateful for what I learned.

my post that didn’t get enough attention: I thought this post on the 1960s Eloise Wilkin book “We Help Mommy”  was one of the funnier ones I’ve ever done. Still do.

my most beautiful post:This was the hardest one to answer for me, but after randomly checking some of my archives, I enjoyed rediscovering this one, a classic Seamus moment:  what was it like before we were here? 

my post of which I’m proudest:  was really a hat-tip to Katy of Bird on the Street, talking about her post on what the parents of disabled children wish the rest of us knew. Katy’s post is called “All I Ask” and you should read it there in its entirety. I’m proud of how I admitted my shortcomings in what I’d taught my children, how I thought I was doing right but wasn’t doing enough. And I’m proud that I was able to use this blog to spread Katy’s message.

Now it’s time for me to pay it forward to five bloggers I admire. These women are all real-life friends of mine that I met through blogging. Both in real life and online, they are hilarious, they are smart, they make you think. If you enjoy this blog you’ll love theirs.

Margaret of Short Fat Dictator

Wendi of

Missy of Wonder, Friend

Erin of I’m Gonna Kill Him

Kelcey of The Mama Bird Diaries


I look forward to reading their seven links!