I’m proud to have an essay published in this month’s New York Family magazine on finding what sports psychologist Larry Lauer calls “the optimal push”: pushing your kids just hard enough to have them reach their full potential. It’s easier said than done, of course, and I certainly don’t have the answers. When I compare myself to other parents– and my kids’ schedules to those of their peers– I can come away feeling both that our house is full of slackers and that I am the awful-est Tiger Mother of all time. Sometimes in the same day.
Have you let your child quit something at which you believed he or she had real talent?
Does your child have one day after school that he can come home and stare at the ceiling?
How do you, as a parent, know when you’ve found the optimal push?